Category: Mental Models
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BE USEFUL
If you want to feel like you matter then remember this. You want people to use you. You just don’t want to feel used. You want to be useful and then be rewarded for that usefulness. You have to set boundaries to stop others from taking too much. But don’t get so lost in protecting…
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BAD IDEAS
Come up with bad ideas. A lot of them. The ability to come up with ideas is a skill. and anything that’s a skill is naturally something you’re pretty bad at when you start doing it. This means you have to come up with bad ideas in order to come up with good ones. Perfectionism…
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LIMITATIONS
Set up useful limitations and understand the ones that are already in place. Limitations are a set of walls that make you feel safe enough to play. Whether you’re coming up with creative things to do in bed or painting the next Mona Lisa, rules make great things possible. To decide what color scheme you’ll…
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CHASING DREAMS VS LIMITATIONS
When we think about making our lives better we often think about chasing our dreams. But if you’ve been chasing your dreams and life isn’t better then there’s something else to do. What if you improved life by making it smaller? Chasing your dreams is great and you should do it. But if it’s crushing…
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FEELING UNSAFE AND BEING UNSAFE
To be capable in uncomfortable situations, you have to understand the difference between feeling unsafe and being unsafe. If you see the feeling of danger as the same thing as the experience of being in danger then you won’t be able to control your decisions. And you will seek to feel more and more safe.…
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STOP LOOKING FOR THE ANSWER
Stop looking for the answer that solves everything. Because the best information gives you more questions than answers. And if you’re looking for the answer that fixes your life, you’ll never find it. Because the answer is to learn to live with the questions. Learn how to move forward even when you’re feeling unsure. And…
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THE SPARK OF POTENTIAL
Imagine your potential as a tiny spark in the dark. And it’s your job to make it burn brighter. If you don’t give yourself the oxygen of effort and rest it will burn out. If you give it the weight of too many tasks you’ll smother it. But if you give it the fuel of…
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TWO IMPORTANT VALUES
I believe that honesty and positive intention are the key to getting good results. Because if you only believe in honesty, you can turn it into a weapon that destroys and manipulates. You can insult and hurt others way more than a liar could. And if you only believe in having a positive intention you…
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QUANTITY OF FEAR
Every fear can be overcome. But not every amount. So if something feels impossible to deal with, it’s not because you’re afraid of that specific thing. It’s because you’re afraid of that thing in that amount. So if you can break a fear into smaller pieces, even if it’s your greatest fear, it becomes something…
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CONTROLLING INFINITY
Infinity lies within us all. And we have to both control it and tap into it. We have to control it because if we try to be everything we will fail. We have to sacrifice options and potential future selves in order to do what needs to be done and become someone worth being. But…