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LEADING WITH ANXIETY
If you don’t want to be anxious then you must not lead with anxiety. Because each time you let your anxiety make a decision for you it reinforces it. It says that yes, you were correct to be anxious in that scenario and now you should look for more reasons to be anxious. Acting on…
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DARK PLACES
If you’re afraid to go into the darker corners of your mind, because you think you might not come back out, then try using this to help. Our mind gets stuck when it’s caught in a loop. And when we explore our darker thoughts, our loops are often fantasies or daydreams of a sort. The…
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ONE THING
If you can organize your life so that you do one useful thing a day you can do incredible things. Obviously, you’re going to do more than one thing in a day. The chores have to get done and you have to eat food and take a shower and do all the things you do.…
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RUBBER BAND
Imagine your life story is like a rubber band pulled tight. Your life story is everything about the way you are, how much money you make, how much you weigh, and what kind of friends you have. And if you gain weight, or go into debt past what’s acceptable according to the story you believe…
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SELF DOUBT
If you’re struggling with self doubt don’t waste time trying to believe in yourself. Just do something that gives you a clear positive result. The way to do that is pick an action that’s smaller and humbler than you think you should do. If you have self doubt and feel like you’re running against things…
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SET INTERNAL LIMITATIONS
Your life will have less panic in it if you set internal limitations instead of battling external ones. Spending less money than you make is setting an internal limitation that stops you from running against the defeating reality that you can’t afford something. Choosing to go to bed early or check out of the party…
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MONEY IS AN IDEA
Money is a human invention. But that doesn’t mean it’s meaningless. Many ideas have created unimaginable positive effects over history and money is an idea. It’s an idea of using an object that’s limited enough to be scarce, but common enough to be owned by anyone to represent value. You can argue all day whether…
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PLANNING TO ACTION
If you’re having trouble moving from the planning phase to the action phase, consider that you might be assuming that you need to have everything figured out ahead of time. Not even rocket launches are done with everything figured out ahead of time. This is a really bad assumption. If you’re starting a business and…
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SAYING NO
If you’re unable to say ‘no’ to someone in your life it might be happening for several reasons. One, is that it might be making you nervous. And if it’s too scary then the solution is to say no more often to smaller things that don’t feel like a big deal. You need practice. Another…
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WILD DREAMS
We often set an impossibly high bar for ourselves and then call that bar normal and shame ourselves for not hitting it. But that makes you feel like death. It makes you want to curl up in the fetal position in your closet. What if instead you recognized your weaknesses, and understood that what you’re…
