We don’t always have the energy to make sense of things. Thankfully, people have lived just fine not making sense of things for thousands of years. So, it’s not immediately apparent that you need to either. But if you believe that you must. If you believe that if you don’t make sense of everything on…

If you’re struggling with an addiction then please look at what good the addiction is doing for you.No one gets addicted to something that doesn’t do anything good for you. The most common addiction is dopamine. If you’re addicted to a cell phone or any number of other things that give you a quick hit…

Crutches aren’t bad. We like to use the word crutch as an insult. It’s common to claim that someone accomplished is using something as a crutch to help them succeed. But all people have weaknesses. And life is really hard. If you’ve found something external that strengthens your weak spots that’s a win. The danger…

Moments of enjoyment are rare. And there’s no particular reason to assume there will be a second moment. And people tend to dampen those joyful moments as a form of self preservation. We don’t want to be exposed to the fact that we might be let down later unpredictably. And we don’t want to face…

The man willing to look after another is the man worthy of respect. When someone takes on responsibility for another person they’re doing something they don’t have to do. And even in the modern world it’s a voluntary sacrifice of epic proportions. Because the person you look after isn’t you. And when you choose to…

If you want something different from your life, then don’t be normal. There are many negative behaviors that are considered normal. And choosing to reduce or control those behaviors makes you an extraordinary person capable of more than most. Drinking is normal. Uncontrolled eating is normal. Binging Netflix and TikTok is normal. Not moderating your…

Being nice doesn’t make you likable. The human brain is designed to gather resources and look for threats. It’s also habit forming, which means anything that repeats and is not a threat will be ignored. If you’re spending your time trying to show everyone that you’re not dangerous and you’re always available to help. Then…

“I reserve the right to do whatever I want.” This is where you’re going wrong with your todo lists. you forgot to put the disclaimer at the top. To do lists are really useful and you should make one. But a lot of people get extremely frustrated with to do lists and they can make…

In the room where you work, get a second chair and put it in the middle of the room, where it’s a little bit rude and in the way. When it’s time to do a task, tell yourself you can either sit in your work chair and do the work, or get up and sit…

Moments of enjoyment are rare. And there’s no particular reason to assume there will be a second moment. And people tend to dampen those joyful moments as a form of self preservation. We don’t want to be exposed to the fact that we might be let down later unpredictably. And we don’t want to face…