Tag: mentalmodel

  • ALL YOUR PARTS

    ALL YOUR PARTS

    Being dangerous is about knowing you’re frustrated or angry and not ignoring it. It’s about not assuming that aggression is the same thing as evil. It’s about accepting that it’s pretty normal to have a negative emotion and knowing that if you view your dark side as possessing qualities that are unworthy to exist then…

  • CHANGE YOU

    CHANGE YOU

    If you want to become a more capable person then stop trying to perfect something. Because your goal isn’t the thing. It’s to be better. And usually working trying to tweak something into perfection takes away the attention from the massive improvements you could be making. The more you focus on the thing the less…

  • BEING AT PEACE

    BEING AT PEACE

    Some people talk about how important it is to be content with what you have. And then others talk about how important it is to never be satisfied and always push yourself toward bigger goals. But if you become content with what you have. You’ll stop growing and you won’t reach your potential. And if…

  • BE USEFUL

    BE USEFUL

    If you want to feel like you matter then remember this. You want people to use you. You just don’t want to feel used. You want to be useful and then be rewarded for that usefulness. You have to set boundaries to stop others from taking too much. But don’t get so lost in protecting…

  • BE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE

    BE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE

    If you want to become truly powerful, remember this. There are ways we want to be and things we want to do. We want to be relaxed, happy, or excited, and then on the do side we want to succeed or build something that matters to us. Usually we sacrifice the way we want to…

  • DOING WHAT YOU WANT

    DOING WHAT YOU WANT

    Doing what you want can be one of the scariest things you can do. Because you spend most of your life unwilling to face up to the fact that you might not get your way. So you hide behind how difficult something is. We procrastinate and say we aren’t ready yet. Or we never try…

  • PAIN VS HARM

    PAIN VS HARM

    If you want to live a life with any sort of joy or hope in it then you have to understand the difference between pain and harm. Pain is a sensation of discomfort. It can be horrible. But it is only a sensation. Harm is a shift in your existence that makes you worse or…

  • IMPROVING YOURSELF

    IMPROVING YOURSELF

    To improve yourself, you need to do the thing that makes you feel like a bad person. If you have low boundaries, you need to stand up for yourself, and that’ll feel like you’re offending people because you’re not used to saying no or telling others what you want. If you have hard boundaries and…

  • MIDDLE OF THE CURVE

    MIDDLE OF THE CURVE

    Finding your people is difficult. And we’re constantly sent signals by the people around us to be more normal. To not be so loud, and to not act so weird. But the most lonely place is in the middle of the bell curve. Because we don’t want to be around lots of people. We want…

  • EXPERIENCE DISCOMFORT TO GROW

    EXPERIENCE DISCOMFORT TO GROW

    Do something difficult in a measured way. Lots of self-development talks about how you need to experience difficult things to become a better person. But to say that without a measuring stick is stupid. You can’t just experience unlimited hard things. There are infinite problems you can choose to experience in life and if you…