When you’re overworking yourself, it’s easy to tell yourself that you’re doing the right thing. Because we want to be good. It’s easy to tell yourself that you need to work harder. Or do one more project to catch up. But the only difference that way of thinking has from telling yourself you’ll have just…

See the good in yourself because it’s useful. If you make nine good decisions and one bad decision you’ll probably call yourself a bad decision maker. Because we like to dislike ourselves. If you do this, you’ll make your belief come true, and make bad decisions because your picture of reality is wrong. The more…

We tend to get overwhelmed with indecision about what to do. Because we want to do everything, or we’re really attached to one thing. Either way, we put an enormous outward effort into chasing what we crave. And when someone tells us we can’t have something it makes us want to rebel and fight or…

It’s really wild. We learn pretty young that working hard and waiting will get us what we want. And if you’ve really learned this lesson then you actually want to work hard and are willing to wait to get the result you want. But human physiology isn’t actually built that way. You don’t get a…

There’s this smile that exists. It’s the smile Bruce Banner has when he’s sitting on a yoga mat at the end of The Hulk movie with Edward Norton. His eyes turn green and he knows that he’s in touch with the monster. It’s the smile of Arya Stark at the end of Game of Thrones…

Being slow to anger is a positive trait. But if you tend to get angry after you’ve had a conversation and the other person has already left, if you have to do the math and carry the one to figure out if you’re angry, that’s not being slow to anger. That’s being out of touch…

There are limits to your capabilities. But if you work within them and repeatedly accomplish productive work you will build abundance within those limits. Abundance that gives you the energy to try a new challenge and push those limits. If you constantly strain against your limits they will wear you down. But if you do…

There are times when you need to focus on getting a result and times when you need to focus on the process that will get you results. An example of this would be trying to learn how to play a piece of music versus learning a particular skill on an instrument. Learning to be skilled…

It can be a terrible mistake to listen to the advice of someone skilled who finds what they do to be easy. Because the people who do things naturally often have no idea how they actually do it. They just rationalize after the fact to explain it. Those rationalizations become what they teach and it…

If you’re having trouble getting stuff done, then you need to figure out if you need more patterns or if you need to break a pattern. Some people are so overwhelmed by life that they need something simple and repetitive to calm them down enough to accomplish their goals. Other people are so hypnotized by…