If you want to be likable then you have to be willing to offend the people around you.
This is because we like people that are willing to take risks and aren’t too concerned with what others think.
This doesn’t mean you should actively be offensive.
This means you need to stop putting all your energy into not offending people.
Be willing to say what you believe and let people decide whether they like what you say or not on their own without softening your words.