Author: Josh Terry
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DARKER DESIRES
Refusing to accept your darker desires makes you vulnerable to them. Hanging on to the idea that you want to be nice all the time and you just want to make everything better for everyone is not a very honest way to see yourself. Because the human animal comes with an infinite set of feelings.…
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DEVELOP YOUR TRUST
If you’re struggling to trust someone and you want to develop your trust in them, understand that you will never feel like you trust someone until after you’ve engaged in the act of trusting them. Trust is not earned. It’s developed. Because there is nothing one person can do to completely remove another person’s fear.…
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OPTIMIZE FOR LUCK
If you want to be successful in life you have to optimize for luck. Don’t eat a healthy diet, workout regularly, learn something new everyday, spend less than you make and invest the difference every month just because it gives you consistently good results. Do it because it makes you healthy, and capable of taking…
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WANTING STUFF
The difference between a craving and a desire is simple. A craving is something that you want and when you get it you are less. A desire is something you want and when you get it you are more. Desire is the most powerful force in the universe and most of us avoid it because…
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IF YOU WANT TO BE LIKEABLE
If you want to be likable then you have to be willing to offend the people around you. This is because we like people that are willing to take risks and aren’t too concerned with what others think. This doesn’t mean you should actively be offensive. This means you need to stop putting all your…
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DO ONE THING RIGHT
There’s a difference between knowing what’s wrong and knowing how to fix it. And if someone is looking for your advice on how to fix something, one of the worst things you can do is tell them everything they’re doing wrong. Because they probably already know, and it will just make them sad or angry.…
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DECIDING WHERE TO GO
It’s easy to think you’re not making progress. This is because we learn by copying others. We compare ourselves to others because we have to. But this creates a situation where you’re wrong until you’re exactly like the person you’re comparing yourself to. And then you’re right. But this destroys your identity and sense of…
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UNDERLYING TRUTH
Making a mistake doesn’t mean you’re wrong. If you believe you should make more friends, and have a terrible experience at a party, it’s easy to believe that you shouldn’t talk to any more people. If you injure yourself in the gym it’s easy to convince yourself that you shouldn’t be exercising. But having a…
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SPEAK YOUR THOUGHTS
Thinking before you speak is helpful but also it can ruin your life. It can teach you to hide your thoughts from the world. And if you hide your thoughts then you can’t find out if they’re good ones. Occasionally, you must be willing to speak your mind without hesitation even if it will upset…
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YOU’RE NOT BORED ENOUGH
If you’re having trouble getting anything done it might be because you’re not bored enough. It’s really popular to believe in using will power to accomplish big things. But you also can just let yourself get so bored that you can’t stand not doing what you want to do. We never give ourselves the opportunity…